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R-E-S-P-E-C-T Find Out What It Means To Me

Updated: Mar 13, 2021

In theory, looking for a #Bull sounds relatively easy. Go online, join a few forums, open up a profile on a dating site and see what bites. Oh, and boy do they bite! I have had enquires from Scandinavia, Australia, the US…but I live in the UK so I wasn’t looking much further afield than Manchester, maybe Leeds. Further away, if they were promising enough.

Choices, Choices, Choices

So I have a huge choice to browse through, like flicking through a catalogue and circling anyone that catches my eye. I don’t want someone of my age, because my husband is my age and I’m realising that I look ridiculously young so why not go for the guys who are the age I look?

Unlike my husband, guys of my age have usually let themselves go and I’m just not interested in a man who is physically less appealing than my husband. That just isn’t going to work for me.

He’s supposed to be a Bull, which implies strength, vigour, and stamina.

I look for a cheeky grin, not too far away but not too close. Preferably someone who can put a good informative profile together…

Modern Day Flashing

Oh dear. Since when is it acceptable to have an empty profile and a selection of cock shots? Do these guys want to meet someone or is this just a warmer park hedge that they can lurk in before they jump out and wave their willy around in front of you for a reaction before they zip up and run away?

Do empty profiles and dick pics work? Even the private photos are blurred faces. The cocks are never blurred, though. They are as proud as punch to be viewed by rolling eyes.

R-E-S-P-E-C-T Find Out What It Means To Me

I find myself thrown back into the bewilderment of online dating, something I used to do circa 2003. Nothing has changed. Cocks, cocks, cocks, and a dearth of punctuation.

How can it be so difficult to find a suitable man for casual sex with no strings in a world full of men who want casual sex and no strings?

It’s easy to disregard and ignore the bad profiles, and you take a chance and invite some promising potentials to Kik to chat further. This is where the next filtering system kicks in.

Some guys reveal themselves fairly quickly to be below my league. Some show themselves up eventually and it’s a pain because you invest time in building up a rapport and they go and spoil it all by being crude and disrespectful.

Looking for sexual partners does not make me cheap. I can't lower my standards. I am a degree educated, discerning, professional woman. This is going to be harder than I thought.

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Louis Lombardo Jr
Louis Lombardo Jr
Jun 07, 2021

correction you are cheap just not in the way your thinking

Anna Hardwood
Anna Hardwood
Jun 16, 2021
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